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I tend to run away from responsibility, Ive struggled with depression all my life. Knowing this, my best friend, against my pleading, fell for me and talked me into dating her and then into marrying her. I mistaked “not knowing what I want” for “I can handle anything” and we married. I told her before we even started dating I knew a few things, like I dont want kids (she does) and I dont want to live in this area (she does). Didnt faze her. She was driven to do good things back then, plus she was hot. Since we got married 5 years ago, weve degraded drastically. Im sure my depression has brought her down. Shes given up changing the world and shes gained a lot of weight. I was frugal and never had any debt before we married. Now were $30,000 in debt and we live on her parents property. Ive never done the manly thing before. What should we do? Keep trying to work it out and save the marriage, or divorce and save ourselves? No one in her family has ever divorced and no one in mine hasn’t.
I should add that we are both in our mid 20′s, working and going to school.

Also that my relationships before her tended to die out when I stopped calling, a tribute to my lack of manliness, fear of responsibility and history of depression.

She had no romantic relationships prior to me, which leads me to believe she persists in loving me out of guilt for wasting her love on me initially.
We do not have children yet.

Where can i get help to save my marriage because is heading for a crash……

There was a time I would have done or overlooked or to be honest not only agreed but I would have enjoyed the other side of the woman I was married to, but now I don’t think I would answer the phone to save the marriage. You kick a dog enough times and he leaves…
Just to answer the lket me guess group.
We were under twenty-five when married…
Made over 6 digits for income…
Shared chores most of the time…
Lasted eighteen yrs
Had two children
We went to church regularly..
We forgot to communicate but we had something that was unique….
Dog Owner??? Whats up with the prostitution thing? I never betrayed my wedding vows, she did at every turn, even posting up on web sites for sex and having sex with both of my brothers one of which is the father of her baby due on our wedding anniversery…

I’v posted a few questions about my husband and I being unable to carry a pregnancy (3 miscarriages, 1 stillbirth in 2 years) and my DR wants me to give up because it is playing havoc on my hormones in my body and she’s concerned about my mental health. I want to give up too. Adoption is still an option and we are signed up for it and on the waiting list. We still do need to raise a few thousand dollars before we can go onto the next step though, but I’m going to be 40 soon and thinking of shutting this whole thing down. Many people are saying that in order to save my marriage I should do ANYTHING to get a child, whether its surrogacy, in vitro, (woudlnt work, I can’t carry a pregnancy) or asking a family member to have one for me. I’m not sure how correct this is…if my marriage is going to fail if we don’t have children, then is it really fair to put the whole success of the marriage on to a poor innocent child? What do you think?

I need help to save a marriage, I mean does anyone here have and hidden tips that work? I found a guide thats suppose to be the best at http://www.helpsavemarriagenow.blogspot.com but I want to try consuling first to help save my marriage. Any tips? Thanks

I’ve been married to a good-looking womanizer for more than twelve years and we have an eleven-year old daughter. My husband had several women in the past but now he seems to be getting more involved this time. He brought home this Chinese girl while my daughter and I were on a 5-week vacation to my parents’ home.
This girl left the kitchen dirty. I also found broken wineglasses, empty bottles of wine, spices and herbs in the kitchen, a toothbrush in the bathroom, disinfectant, a negative result of a pregnancy test kit, and unused feminine napkins.
My husband sent her home the day before we arrived but they were too careless not to tidy the apartment. I also found three kissmarks on his chest.
I still love my husband. I want to keep him and save our marriage. I want to protect my daughter from the truth but he has drained me of all emotions. How can I keep going? How can I stop them in this forbidden relationship? How can I keep a man who doesn’t know the word “change”? I am hurt..

My husband has said he thinks he might have married me out of guilt. We had a child prior to marriage. He doesn’t know if he loves me or wants our marriage to work. How can we rejuviante our marriage and work through his feelings to save our marriage???

Need ways to catchup on old debt to save my marriage. I don’t budget well and need advice.

My husband and I have been married for 2 years, we have 2 children, and we are completely miserable… we love eachother very much, but I just don’t feel that love is always enough…I don’t want a divorce… I just feel like he needs to take care of himself for awhile… he has never been on his own…he has always had someone to take care of him and because of that I belive that he is very selfish… so my question is… does a trial separation ever work to save a marriage? Or should I stay and try to make it work that way?